Roland H.E. Stieda 1939-2021
Roland Stieda died peacefully on the morning of Feb. 9,2021 just a month before his 82nd birthday.
Roland was a loving husband, brother, father, grandfather and great-grandfather. Well-loved and respected by all who knew him. Born the fifth of six children to his German Baltic parents, Roland and Marie at their newly built home in Stettin, Germany in 1939. His early years were fraught with uncertainty as war raged in Europe. During the waning days of the war the family ended up as refugees in Denmark, then in 1947 were able to settle temporarily near Bremen, Germany. Finally in the fall of 1952, with the help of Lutheran World Relief and the Canadian Baltic Immigrant Aid Society (CBIAS) Roland, his parents and two siblings followed the older siblings to Winnipeg, Manitoba to start a new life. In 1962 he followed his parents, west to British Columbia. In 1968 he graduated from UBC with his BEd. In the meantime, he met the love of his life, started a family and eventually his teaching career which took him from a one room school in Canim Lake East to high schools in Dawson Creek, Barrière and Kamloops. In 1979 a career change to working with the provincial government in the Ministry of Attorney General moved the family to Prince George and eventually greater Victoria. In 1997 Roland took early retirement to be able to accompany Lennor for a teaching exchange year in England. A stroke in 2014 severely restricted his life but he enjoyed visits from friends and family, being pushed in his wheelchair to the ocean and going for a beer.
In each community that the Stiedas lived in, Roland was involved with his Lutheran faith community. Over the years Roland was involved as a cantor, singing bass in the choir, as well as taking on leadership roles in worship, church council and for many years was a valued member of synod council.
Roland enjoyed the outdoors, spending time hiking, skiing, and camping. As his family grew, he shared his love of the outdoors with them. Both before and after retirement he and Lennor enjoyed travelling and managed to visit with friends and family in Germany, France, Australia, England, Mexico, Switzerland, Latvia and throughout Canada and parts of the United States. Baltic family traditions, including the making of special foods and many unique activities were an important part of sharing his heritage with his family and friends. Throughout their many years together Roland and Lennor cultivated and maintained many friendships with people all around the world. Their home was always a welcoming place for family, friends and students including those from Pearson College.
Roland is lovingly remembered by his wife of 58 years; Lennor, children; Renée (Warren), Gisela (Brent), Roland (Henrike), his grandchildren; Alexandria (Eddie), Victoria (Stew), Anthony (Chelsey), Antonia, Louisa (Tony), Tanya (Owen), Sonu (Colin) and Sarah (Darcy), as well as eight great grandchildren – Ava, Mason, Emmet, Eli, Sawyer, Weston, Nathan and Hazel. He further leaves behind to mourn him his sisters Eva and Sieglinde, his brothers and sisters-in-law – Christoph, Stephanie, Henning, Bev, Dittmar, Pat, Brita, Bob, Agnes, Gordon, Gerry and Clive along with many nieces and nephews and extended family around the world.
The family would like to extend a heartful thanks to the staff at Resthaven Lodge in Sidney who appreciated and cared for him these last five years as well the palliative care unit at Saanich Peninsula Hospital who showed such care and kindness to him and Lennor in the last final days and hours.
During these complex times a traditional funeral service will not be held. A live stream will be held on Saturday, February 20th at 10:30 am PST (www.lutheranvictoria.ca). At a future time family will gather in Oliver, BC to lay his ashes to rest at the family plot. If one wishes donations can be made in his memory to the Music Fund at Lutheran Church of the Cross (www.lutheranvictoria.ca), Lutheran World Relief (lwr.org) or to Pearson College UWC (www.pearsoncollege.ca).
As a special request Roland asked that at his good-bye service, people join in a champagne toast. So please raise a glass to celebrate a life well lived. Thank you!
Lenore and family,
You are in our prayers as the days of grieving continue even as fond memories linger in your hearts. Love never ends but enfolds in our Savior’s care and promises.
Dear JoAnn and Harry
I have had you in my prayers all these many months.
Thanks for your kind words.
Lennor
Wishing Lennor and the rest of the family the very best wishes and God’s blessings.
Thank you Daniel,
Blessings to you as well.
Daniel, I have the group photo of us on my fridge.
Hope you are continuing well with your life.
Pearson students are all close to us.
Dear Lennor and Family,
We were so sorry to hear of Roland’s sudden passing. We have many fond memories of Roland and will always picture him with that trademark big grin of his lighting up the room. Grant will remember times spent on walks to the ocean in Sidney and the big smile on Roland’s face when he won a game of Rummy Tiles! We know Roland will be greatly missed by all of you but also know that you have many wonderful memories of times spent together to keep him ever close in your hearts. Sending our love and hugs once again. Grant and Diane
Thank you for reading this obit. Hopefully you will find the service on the site of our church or on YouTube.
He missed your walks this past COVID year dearly.
Fondly, Lennor
Dear Lennor and family,
What can one say about such a huge loss. It is so difficult to say goodbye to those we love. Reading Roland’s obituary gave me some insight as to the wonderful man that he was for his family and friends. The tribute by his island grand-daughter and her collection of stories from all of the grandchildren was so touching. Lennor, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me for company and soup.
Love and hugs from both of us:
Connie and Niels
Thank you Connie!
Your soups were great this past week.
I was looking at cards today and couldn’t figure out your signature! But now I know.
Thank you for being part of the farewell service yesterday.
Fondly, lennor
Dear Lennor and family,
My heartfelt condolences to you all in the loss of your husband, father, grandfather and great grandfather. Although I never met Roland, the obituary you wrote helped me to see what a fine person he was and he leaves the world a better place for his being in it. Love to you Lennor as you move forward with your loving memories of Roland.
Thank you, Jeanette.
The service this morning was lovely.
Liebe Lennor
Ich habe mit Trauer über Roland’s Tod gelesen.
Er wird aufrichtig vermisst werden: ein guter Mann der ein reiches leben voller Liebe hatte.
Ich hoffe das Du und Ihre grosse Familie durch schöne Erinnerungen von Roland genährt werden können.
Alles beste.
Wolfgang
Lieber Wolfie ( so nannte Roland seinen so guten Arzt)
Danke. Es freut mich von Ihnen zu hören.
Roland war so guter Dinge in seinen letzten Tagen in Resthaven. Am Tag vor diesem letzten Schlaganfall
Hatten wir ein Zoom mit unserem Sohn in Chelsea Quebec, wo Roland so laut Hoch Soll Er Leben sang als sollten die Töne durch ganz Canada fliegen müssten! Unser Sohn wurde 54 . Und am 5. Feb kam dann der Schlag von dem e r starb. Danke für Alles!
Danke sehr fuer den so lieben Gruss.
Roland schätzte seinen Dr. Wolfie sehr.
Dear Lennor,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I didn’t get to spend much time with Roland when I stayed with you during project week a few years ago, but the memory of the home you created together and so eagerly opened to others is one I will always recall with a smile.
Sending love,
Maria
Dear Maria
It warms my heart to hear from dear Pearson students. Thank you.
Dear Lennor,
We are deeply sad and sorry for your loss. Our time with Roland was short, but it feels like we had known him for years. His warm and loving smile always made us feel welcome. Thanks for opening your home and heart to us. Roland will always have a special place in our heart.
Thank you for your sweet comments. He did certainly love you like family.
I was deeply saddened to learn of Roland’s death. He was a wonderful colleague in our years on Synod Council and it has been a joy to keep in touch with both of you since that time. His deep faith and commitment to serving his Lord will always be remembered.
Thank you Carol.
It came as such a shock.
He was so happy this last week.
And that stroke just hit him at his supper hour.
Take care.
Lennor
I will always remember Roland with gratitude and respect. As we served together in leadership, his deep commitment to the church made a significant and lasting impact. My heartfelt sympathies to family members and friends.
Thank you, Cliff,
I appreciate you writing
Lennor
Thank you Cliff for your kind words.
Dear Lennor, I am sorry to hear of Roland’s passing. You both made the Inselnest a wonderful home for a whole year. Both Elli and I have great memories of lovely food and thoughtful conversations. And music. There was always music. God be with you in your time of grieving. Anne
Thank you, Anne.
We has such fond memories of your study year with us. Roland so enjoyed cooking for us, didn’t he?
And yes, music was so crucial to life at Inselnest.
Lennor,
My sincere condolences to you on the passing of your husband.
With respect, Bruce
Your words touched my heart.
Hope all is well with you and yours.
Lennor, Renee, Gisela, and Roland, our thoughts are with you and your families.
Thanks Tara and Olaf – was having fun going through old photos today – found some from 1992 – with your boys in them.
So sorry, Lennor, to hear of Roland’s passing. I know you will miss him dearly. Although I only met Roland once, I enjoyed hearing about your many adventures and the closeness of your family. Sending you hugs.
Thank you Sharon for your kind words, I know that Mom appreciates them.
My deepest condolences, Lennor. I have many great memories from the years I spent working with Roland at CLEU. You were such generous, gracious hosts to us on many occasions and every Christmas I think of your tree decorated with traditional real candles. He was a kind, gentle man and he loved his family-may he Rest In Peace.
Thank you Helen for your kind words. Dad did enjoy his time at CLEU.
Helen, so good to hear from you. Thank you. I had been thinking of you ever so often and wondering how you have been.
Roland is leaving a big hole in the circle of people he’s touched with his kindness
Our sincere sympathies to you, Renee, and your family on the loss of your father. What a treasured legacy he has left you all.
Allan and Leslie Lundgren.
Thank you Leslie and Allan for your kind words.
A life well lived indeed!
Sincere Condolences.
Dear Lennor. I am sorry to hear about Roland’s passing. I have good memories of him and will cherish them, it was a pleasure to meet and care for him. I will miss seeing you both on Saturday evenings.
God bless you and your family at this time and always.
Perla, your help and kindness over these last years when Dad was able to come home for visits was very much appreciated.
Sam and I are so sorry to hear of your loss. We are comforted that you were there with your loving arms around him.
With all our love,
Alex & Sam
Thank you Alex and Sam.
Dear Lenore and Renee and families, I am so sorry for your loss. I regret that I never met Roland, but you and yours are in my prayers.
Love Marilene
Thank you Marilene.
Dear Lennor – I am so very sad and sorry for your loss. I hope the love of your family and friends will bring you comfort in the days to come.
Dear Morgan, hang in there and know that Roland
is at peace. He so loved your birds especially.
Dearest Lennor,
Though I didn’t get to spend time with you and Roland as a couple, I did get to know about him as a husband, father, grandfather, brother, uncle and friend through your stories about your life together. You devotion to creating a happy and caring Resthaven Inselnest for him touched my heart. Thank you for sharing your stories of him with me.
Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
With love
Pam and Greg
Thank you Pam and Get for your kind words.
Pam you are a dear friend
and thank you both for being there for me.
My deepest sympathy Lennor to you and your dear family. I was so pleased to have met Roland and seen the closeness you and he had. May he rest in Peace.
Thank you Judy for your kind words.
Judy, I am also so happy about our shool reunion time last year here with Roland present.
Thank you.
Dear Lennor we are sending loving thoughts your way and are remembering Roland’s gracious hospitality and such love of all things Christmas.Your deep love and
faithful care for Roland will always be an inspiration to all. Peace to you dear friend.
Thank you Karl and Sheila. Dad really did enjoy sharing our Advent and Christmas traditions.
Dear Both,
Thank you and looking forward to meeting up again at some point.
I am so sorry to hear of this passing of Roland. Although I never got to meet him, I got to hear of the many beautiful experiences that he got to enjoy during this last year of his life. Sending so much love to the family and especially his beloved Lennor. xx
You are a good listener. Thank you so much for your new friendship this past year.
I was so sad and sorry to hear this news. My deepest sympathies to you and your family, Lennor.
Thank you, dear Morgan. Now to find a spot for Roland’s latest Robin painting from you.
Thank you, dear Morgan. Now to find a spot for Roland’s latest Robin painting from you.
Good luck with winter coming
Thank you Morgan, Dad always enjoyed your paintings.
Dear Lennor, Gisela, Renee, Roland and families –
We were shocked and very saddened to hear of Roland’s passing. It all happened so suddenly and unexpectedly. We cherish the many wonderful times we spent together at parties, dances and travels. We are happy that on our last visit with Roland, we were able to share once again our mutual Mexican adventure. He was, indeed, a good friend that we shall always cherish in our hearts.
Jack and Gisela Braniff
Thank you dear friends
Thank you dear friends
Long time friendship!
Thank you Jack and Gisela – you truly have been wonderful family friends over the years.
Such a beautiful write up about Roland. This captured the essence of Roland. We are so sorry for your loss Lennor
May You hold beautiful memories of the times together.
Darlene Kakoske and Chris Pritchet
You two are dear to me.Danke für eure Freundschaft
Thank you for your kind words.
Dear Lennor,
I am so sorry to hear of Roland’s death. You have been such good partners and you have helped him so much in these last, difficult days. I hope the many, many good memories help you.
Love,
Marilyn
Thank you dear birthday buddy
Thank you.
He was a wonderful and caring person. He is very greatly missed. Sending much love to all the family and friends.
Thank you. I can see him visiting Pams mother so many weeks
Thank you Pam, yes he will be missed.
Dearest Lennor & Family,
My deepest condolences on the passing of your beloved Roland. What a fine gentleman he was and what a remarkable life you had together ! Treasure your precious memories.
Love, Elsbeth
Dear friend, yes, you know.
Thank you for donating to LWR also
Yes it definitely was a wonderful life together.
Oh, dear Lennor, I am so very sorry to hear this. You were such a loving and faithful wife and you did all you could to make his declining years so very happy and comfortable. We will keep all of you in our prayers. Bless you and all your lovely family.
Blessings to you and yours with thanks for your caring
Thank you Leanne.
So happy to have had Roland in my life, albeit not for long enough. Will remember fondly our many social gatherings to play bridge and the years we spent together as staff members at South Peace High School in Dawson Creek. Lennor, let me know when you ferry across to Vancouver. We’ll meet for lunch and honour Roland’s life together. Wishing you strength, dear friend.
Oh Jim, those great memories of your friendship with Roland in Dawson Creek.
See you after COVID
Thank you Jim for sharing your memories.
We have so many fond memories of hiking skiing, and partying with Roland. He was so well-informed and interesting to talk to. He never lost his dignity during the time he spent in care. A noble spririt.
Thank you Merle and Doug – your friendship since 1968 has always been welcomed.
My deepest sympathies to all of you.
Thank you Anna. We were so glad that our families have been able to stay in touch all these years – since our time in Canim Lake/ Mahood Falls.
After almost a lifetime of knowing Roland, I feel sadness at his death and respect for his life.
Thank you.
We cherished your friendship since 1968. May you rest in piece, dear friend, Dietger and Brigitte Hollmann
Thank you Dietger and Gitti for your kind words.
My sincere condolences. May memories of happy times together comfort you.
Thank you.
May his memory be a blessing(copied from an other place)
Thank you Evi – we will always have fond memories.
Thank you for your kindness and the fun memories of playing cards at the kitchen table.
Thanks Heather – Dad sure did love playing games.